No, you can't have it all
This might sound hard to read, but no, you can't have it all.
In this standup comedy, Michelle Wolf shares that people tell her that she doesn't have to choose between having a baby and a career, that she can have it all. She highlights that having it all doesn't mean it is good, making an analogy with an all-you-can-eat buffet. “You’ve never left an all-you-can-eat buffet and thought, I feel really good about myself.”
Another person who agrees with this point is an ex-competing athlete for bikini and personal coach, who was also sharing that if you aim to do everything perfect, probably you go a bit crazy. When you check all the boxes, all the time, every day.
This truth can be hard to accept. I remember talking with my friend Abed about this concept, we both have very similar personalities, so I knew that hearing that statement was going to raise a shared discomfort. Depending on how your patterns of thought are configured in your mind at the moment, this can be not so easy to read.
But it is the truth and the more we realize it, the better. Not having it all doesn't mean that our lives can't be tremendously wonderful. It doesn't mean that we can't have dreams, follow them, love and be loved.
Some days are long and intense. I wake up, share time with loved ones, work hard, train, cook, read...And at the end of the day, when I lie in bed tired from all that I have done, it seems that if you would give me two more hours on that day I would use them up.
Time has a limit. You can't go to a supermarket and buy it. That's how life goes. Embrace it. (I also want to do so). And enjoy the ride.
Do you agree? Or what do you think about this concept? What are your experiences with not having it all? Hit the reply button, happy to read you.
A podcast
Relationships is a topic that causes me a lot of curiosity. I like to learn about how a healthy long lasting relationship can be built. Probably because I am not in one at the moment and if at some point I am in one I want the relationship to be gasoline for my body, I want to be a team and not that it drains my energy or causes me more harm than good. If a person is making your life more miserable on a daily basis instead of making it better, I question what the person is doing in my life and if I can do something to change the situation. Romantic relationships can be wonderful. They require daily energy and work, so I like learning how you can choose someone who complements you in a healthy way.
Logan Ury is a professional in human conduct and has written the famous book How to Not Die Alone. She talks about relationships in the podcast of The Diary of a CEO in a clear and structured way. I have listened to the episode a couple of times already, it might be interesting for you too, so here it goes.
A quote
Got this one from Headspace, the meditation app I regularly use.
Peace of mind isn't something to work out or achieve. The moment we realize this, we discover that peace of mind was here all along.
Have a good week.
I love you very much world,
Julia